Grieving a traumatic, sudden, or accidental death can be a different and more difficult process than mourning a death following an illness or condition.

Coping With A Sudden And Traumatic Death Of A Loved One

It’s hard enough to lose someone you love to an illness, disease, or condition – it can be even more difficult to lose a parent, spouse, or child suddenly and in a traumatic way. You may be overwhelmed with thoughts like it was too soon for them to go, life isn’t fair, and how could this have happened? You could also be feeling very vulnerable and insecure to think that life is so fragile and could be lost at any moment.

All of these thoughts and feelings are normal.

Dealing with the sudden death of a family member is simply different from dealing with a more natural or timely passing. You have no time to emotionally prepare yourself for the event and you do not often get a chance to say your final goodbye. In addition, a death that involved an accident – such as a traffic accident, a fall accident, or a boating accident – adds to your grief because such accidents are often violent, senseless, and preventable. In addition, you may have to investigate the death, speak to the media, or go to court regarding the accident – all public acts that make it difficult to move on or grieve in private.

How can you begin to cope with the grief that comes after a traumatic and sudden death?

•    Remember that everyone grieves differently.
Don’t be afraid to “be yourself” in your grief. If you fear that you are not grieving in a healthy manner, talk to a counselor about your thoughts and feelings.
•    Return to a routine. While it is acceptable to take time to grieve and focus on your loss, after a period of time, it will be helpful for most people to adhere to a normal routine that includes rest, exercise, healthy meals, and life’s little pleasures.
•    Lean on your support system. Even though someone important to you is gone, you have friends and family that are there for you and who want to help you. Don’t be afraid to reach out to them and ask them for what you need.
•    Understand that it takes time. You will always feel sadness connected to this event, but you have to take life one day at a time – or even one hour at a time.

If you've lost a loved one in a wrongful death accident, call the Seattle Wrongful Death Lawyer at Andrew Kim Law Firm the Wrongful Death Law Firm. You will speak with an experienced attorney in a free consultation to discuss your case and have any of your questions answered. In the Bellevue area, call (425) 289-1990. In Tacoma, (253) 682-2000 or toll free at (800) 636-3676.